Don'tDressLikeACarcass.

     We've all heard it. "Oh My gosh! I always attract the sleazy guys never a good one!". Well I would like to lend those girls some information that could possibly help their situation, If you do NOT want to attract the vultures I advise that you do not dress like a Carcass. Just saying... There is no need for you to be wearing short jean shorts that are short enough to be underwear, shirts that are low enough for you to flash the world, and skirts that are short enough for you to show the whole wide world what your mother gave you. I don't understand the concept of dressing in such a way. Maybe it's the pressure to give into what society tells you is "hip", maybe it's because you have a low self esteem, or maybe all you really want is that Vulture to come pick at you like a dead piece of meat. But if it's the first two, I promise there is no reason for a respectable young lady to dress in such a way.

     I understand that society is constantly pressuring girls of all ages to dress older and wear less. It's basically for stores to have marketing tactics. The stores pay the media to portray their slutty clothes as cool, and seeing your favorite store sell something like that and then seeing other girls wearing it, makes you want to give into that. It's like when I said I would never wear Tom's because they were ugly, well I wear them now. I saw them on so many people and in so many ads and the desire to "fit in" because almost unbearable and you start to consider doing/wearing things that you never would have in the first place. Now for those of you who are reading this and are saying "Oh, well I'm unique and I've never wanted to fit into mold" sorry, but you're slightly wrong. Everybody has this passion to be loved and to fit in and to have that "group" you can call yours. And though you aren't aware, your mind tells you that you won't be another clone of society if you only buy 1 pair of Tom's, or 1 pair of Sperry's, or if you buy that over priced Coach purse just because everybody else has one. And buying things like that is okay! There is no reason for you not to buy something you like just to avoid "Having the same thing she has". It shouldn't be an issue, if you like it, buy it. Simple as that. But to dress like a carcass in the name of "fitting in" or "showing off" is a little ridiculous. Do you really think that when you wear your booty shorts and cleavage reaveling shirt, that some guy will walk past you and say "WOW! She has gorgeous eyes and a wonderful personality! I want to date her because of that!", no. Most of the time when they see that, they aren't exactly thinking the most respectable things. You could go as far to say that the thoughts that pop in their head are more along the line of, "DANG! She looks SEXY! (and not in the respectable sexy way that has more to do with your personality and not your body) I bet if I tell her how HOT she looks, that she'll sleep with me within a month!" You may shake your heads and say, "No, they wouldn't say that..." Well honey, when your shorts are practically invisible and your boobs are hanging out, they will most likely be thinking that, or at least thoughts that no respectable man would think about a respectable woman who is portraying herself in a respectable manner...Unless he's blind that is, then he can't see you anyways. All I'm saying about this is, do not let the pressure of your peers, the media, and society force you to be something you're not.

     Now, for those of you who do it for confidence and self-esteem issues, I have something to tell you as well. You do not need to wear such an attire for you to be noticed. Just throw your shoulders back, lift your head up and smile and I promise you'll feel a tiny boost of confidence just from that. There are some things I'll explain about confidence here in a second on a ways down that will explain in greater detail. But I just want you to know that as long as you love yourself you will be able to find a man who loves you back. Yeah, you may encounter some idiots, some failures, and you may even get dumped. But you are to Never Ever let that get you down. There is no reason that a man should define who you are. Never. If you focus on school, living your life, and loving yourself (not in a concieted way) God will bring that perfect person to you in time. But if you cannot love yourself, what makes you think you will have the confidence to love another. If you do not have confidence in what lies inside of you, you will become a welcome mat for all the dumb boys of the world.  You must have confidence in yourself to succeed.

     Ok, so as I said earlier I am going to explain in further detail on how to acquire self-confidence. No, I'm not promising that you will become the most confident person in the world, but what I will say is that if you try hard and focus on your life and not trying to please others, you will grow.
     There are many reasons that a person's self-confidence can be low... Too many reasons to even list, but I will list a few. Weight, Outter Appearances, a history of failures, a history of crappy guys, fear of failure, fear of not being perfect enough, fear of rejection and any fear in general really. If you're reason is an outer appearance issue, then make yourself feel beautiful. There are other ways to making yourself feel beautiful besides wearing promiscuous clothing. If it's a weight problem try and fix it... I'm not saying go on a radical diet, but if you're unhappy with the way you look you have the power to fix it.. Don't say"Oh I don't have time" because you do. Get up earlier and do some crunches, go walk in the evening, or do some jumping jacks, it doesn't have to be expensive. If you don't like the way makeup looks on you when you do it, but you want to wear it, go to a makeup counter in the mall and they can show you how to do things that look good on you for free. If you don't like your hair, get a color or a new cut, don't be afraid of change it can be a good thing. But if you do color or cut your hair, have a professional do it, because if your bestie does it out of a box or just picks up a pair of scissors, she can really mess your self-esteem worse if she totally botches your hair. Wear clothes that fit your body and work with your body, don't alter your body to fit clothes, they are to alter to you. But just try new things, sometimes change can be a wonderful confidence booster! As far as guys go, don't chase after them like a dog after a ball. Like I said, if you focus on your own life, live your life to the fullest, and just be yourself, God will bring the right person along sooner or later. You just have to have the patience. You must also know that you can NOT let a man define you. He must be a compliment and not somebody that rules your life, nor should he feel the need to abuse you. If you're in an abusive relationship get some help and GET OUT. No man or woman should be abusive towards either person. That gets you nowhere. But please don't let a man define you, he is to be your partner and not your master. You are NOT door mat, do not let him walk on you. And last but not least if you fear failure, know that with success comes failure. Do you think Albert Einstein succeeded the very first time he tried something? No. Life is a trial and error sort of thing, so just be patient and roll with the punches. God Loves you.


     And if nothing else sunk into your brain, I still hope that the whole "don't dress like a carcass thing" sunk in at least.